Lately I’ve been a little scattered and honestly a little lost. I’m sure many others feel this way as well, and I’m not quite sure why but I have some ideas.
For a very long time my world existed of needing other people to like what I do in order to make a living. I needed their approval in order to be able to pay my rent. Not directly but definitely indirectly. And I started noticing how many of us have jobs like that. Providing a service used to be different. And it is changing all of the time, especially with the use of social media. People I’ve never heard of or even seen anywhere before are now mini celebrities based on how many people follow them on Instagram!
Personally, I’m not craving that type of attention. I love playing music, I love taking photos of people, I love working with my hands. I love helping others and I love doing it simply because I can. Maybe I’ve gone off of the deep end as I simply don’t care about money. I know I need it, but it is such a waste of time trying to get it. And I don’t want to come off as some dirty hippie, but we don’t need it, the earth does provide for us.
This past election year (oh shit here comes the political talk) has got me really messed up. It was amazing to see how people were very against helping their fellow humans. I saw a talk where a woman scolded Bernie Sanders and said he lost her vote when she heard about “free college for everyone.” What really shocked me was her lack of compassion. The second shock was that she had no clue what the plan was about but she was just against it because “she wasn’t going to pay for that.” But why are you against helping each other? If it was free to you would you want it? It isn’t like it is open to a D student, they actually have to get accepted into school and keep up their grades and have to stay in the state after graduation as many years as it took to graduate therefore helping the economy of the state which paid for their education. It is more of a pay it forward plan rather than a free ride to all. But I don’t want to get into politics, this was just one point I was trying to make about how we are so not willing to help others even if they deserve it.
I just found it a little ironic how this woman felt entitled to everything she had, but said that anyone who wanted a free education was just self entitled and didn’t want to work for anything. This is sad to me. Why do we have to hold others back to feel better about ourselves? This shows how something is definitely lacking in our society and how we put money and status above actual human connection.
I remember the phrase “respect your elders.” But something has changed because some of our elders are not worthy of anyone’s respect. Here is a very vague example, I’m just pulling this one out of thin air. Back in the day, a man would tip his hat to a woman of any age out of respect. He would stand when she entered the room out of respect for a lady. This wasn’t sexism, this was respect which was taught to him by his mother in most cases. It was also called manners. Hence, manners are a way a person shows respect for another person. But back to my point….
There were still young men who would cat-call women, say inappropriate things and be rude, hormones do really stupid things to some people. But if there was a true man/gentleman around, that man would not be afraid to confront these idiots and defend the woman who was being harassed. This didn’t happen because she needed his help, this happened because people were taught to respect others and to show respect for others.
For years I had the same bank. Every so often I would see this elderly man leaving the bank and I would hold the door for him. I don’t know how many times this happened as we always seemed to have the same banking hours. But one time he actually stopped and shook my hand and said to me “thank you, I have seen you open the door for me, for many others and you always have a smile on your face and are always so kind.” Honestly, this meant the world to me, just to make someone happy by simply being kind. I told him you’re welcome and we had a nice brief chat. And it is moments like these which have me so confused. Why do I get so much joy out of simply being nice to others? I wish I could market this and turn this into my day job!
But as I get older I see less and less of this behavior happening. I saw an article on a news site which talked about a lack of a certain type of religious values which is why this is happening and I couldn’t disagree more. Look, religion doesn’t make you a good person, in some cases it gives a bad person an excuse to pretend to be good to only be bad. But just like politics I’m going to keep this one on the down low for now. But I will say this. True religion and spirituality teaches love, tolerance and compassion. If you are lacking any of these things, it is on you, not your religious beliefs or lack thereof.
For the record I am still a lot lost. I am still trying to figure it all (or at least some of it) out. But I don’t think that is the answer. This life is my own personal journey and I am still very unclear of what my destination in. This post isn’t about finding answers, it is more of letting someone else know that I don’t have it all figured out either. I am just as lost as you. This is just my own little path of trying to help those I can, mostly because I enjoy it, and hopefully I keep on getting to meet some cool people along the way.
I don’t know what I am teaching here, maybe it is about manners and respect. Maybe if we all just try to do something nice at least once a day I might not feel so lost anymore. I’d like to see more people just be nice. Is that so wrong?